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On Definitions…

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A Question from @mrhankfisher :

“Hey bro. I just found your tumblr and I gotta say thank you. I am a bator myself, but I don’t use the term solosexual because I haven’t found a clear definition for it yet.
I take the term solosexual to mean a person whose preferred sexual outlet is solo masturbation. Is this how YOU define the term?
On many occasions I have spoken to guys who call themselves solosexual, but what they define it as, is someone who just
masturbates (regardless of whether they only masturbate their own penises, or masturbate others’ and GET masturbated BY others).

Because of this discrepancy, I am reluctant to call myself solosexual. I call myself a BATOR. I love solo bate, but I also love mutual bate. (and yes, there is even grey area with the term ‘mutual masturbation’ as some take it to mean masturbating themselves when another person is present and masturbating themselves – argh!

Anyhow, I would love to get your take on this masturbation terminology.

Hank - A fellow bator in Los Angeles, CA U.S.A.”

And my answer:

“Hank, hey. Thanks for your question. As with all definitions they are useful when they are useful and they are limiting when they are limiting. I think your definitions are pretty solid.

I think your description of solosexual is spot on. Solosexuals have themselves as their sexual preference. Not necessarily in a narcissistic way (although I argue that some erotic narcissism is healthy) but that solo masturbation is their erotic goal and is on the whole fully satisfying. It is an identity separate to being gay, straight or bi. And just as there is a sliding scale between gay and straight, I believe there is a scale on which all sexual individuals sit between solosexuality and partnered sex. I say I am about 90% solosexual, but hey, it’s a scale so it changes. I think of solosexual in a pronoun sense as in "I am”.

What’s a bator? Well, for a long time I called myself a bator. I still call myself a bator (and sometimes a masturbator). I think you get this right too because bators LOVE masturbation. On their own, with others, mutual or in the presence of. For bators, masturbating is a hot, fun and satisfying way to get off. Do bators go as far as to identify in an “identity” sense as solosexuals? Perhaps not. That doesn’t mean they are less committed to whacking off. It just means perhaps that you can be a bator AND be gay, or be a bator AND be straight. I think of it was more a verb word. It’s about the act, as in “I bate” which suggests that your relationship to masturbating is elevated and more invested in than the general populous.

I have found that calling myself solosexual, as I do, is for me a slightly more socially charged act as it does question some established norms. I am all for that right now. But I also feel that it best captures me, erotically. But it really is up to you. What captures you erotically? And I welcome others to chime in with their feelings because these words are NEW and that’s exciting. We are forging a new lexicon. “Bate bros” is another term that bears some interrogation, for example. Even just using the word “bate” suggests for me something more than jerking off, or calling yourself an “edger”, that’s a whole new thing. All these words are new and have meaning and are taking hold. How fucking exciting.

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When our language changes, it means that something is being recognized that maybe wasn’t discussed before — not that it didn’t happen. These words are new, but what they describe is very old. Now it’s recognized so we can talk about it. That’s really fucking exciting!

I’ve got lots more to say, but — sorry, guys — I’m too busy masturbating at the moment so I’ll have to add more later.

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Declaration

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I am an unashamed Masturbator. There is no greater feeling of love that when my Penis is in my hand and Masturbating. Loving myself. Loving the gift that stands between my legs. Expressing my feelings for my truest love, my Penis. My Penis and testicles are a blessing. I get erections and it fills me with so much love. I wrap my fingers around my Penis, I grip him, I squeeze him, I stimulate and make love to him. I call his name, I praise him, I treat him like the male blessing he is. I am never closer to spiritual cleanliness and truth that when I ejaculate semen through the act of Masturbation. It builds my masculinity, restores my confidence and makes me one with the bearers of Phallus who came before me, walk beside me and those who follow. To say having a Penis is an honor is an understatement. Hail Penis! Hail Phallus.

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—- Speak our truth, brother

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Worship. Penis is God.

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Holy, Holy Penis

Dream of my entire life: Let me worship you. Be my master and Lord. Give me a lot of cum to purify my life and piss to cleanse my body. To glorify your universal power, to all who love you dearly, to all who kiss and suck your head and gorgeous shaft. Give them cum aplenty. Hail Penis! I am waiting for the Holy Father. My mouth is ready and very wet. I shall suck him long and hard. I shall bring him to climax. His hot nectar is sacred to me. I shall drink all of his milk and more. O dear Lord Penis: give us this day our daily cum.
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